I remember my first biking experience vividly. I was about 5 and my mom just bought my sister and I new bikes. It was the coolest bike I ever owned. It was green, it had tassels on the handlebar and a little basket where I can stuff my candy stash. Oh, and it had training wheels, which at the time no one told me I needed to learn to bike without them. The idea of ‘training’ was lost on me. So I became dependent and attached. When they were taken off the bike, I completely lost my sense of balance, or lack thereof, fell and hurt myself and vowed to just be one of those people who never bikes.
Fast forward to 20 years later and you realized how essential certain aspects of your life are and that it’s completely not okay for a modern 24 year old woman to just blatantly swear off an activity so loved by many. At least, I had to know what the hype was all about! So a resolution came into play when I came to Texas that by any means necessary, this stubborn chick is gonna learn to ride a bike.
A mountain bike was bought. A cool helmet was bought. I wanted a little basket for my candy stash but apparently, it doesn’t go with a mountain bike. So that was a sacrifice on my part. A hilly park was found and off we ventured to my unknown.
I digress. I am that modern woman who is constantly compelled to research everything and anything. Otherwise, what good is the Internet for, if not for endless cat gifs and how to bike videos. I gathered what I thought were helpful tips to soften the blow of my inevitable fall.
So while on that grassy hill, I kept telling myself that all I needed to do is glide and the momentum will make it easier for me to find balance and ride. Instead of gliding, I screamed my way down, zeroed in on a tiny pothole on the ground, tried to avoid it and went stumbling down the hill. Not only were my knees and palms bruised, but also my ego.
Then I really swore to never bike again, because falling to me equated being defeated.
However, persistence and perseverance are two of my favorite words so we found a empty parking lot with a very slight slope and instead of focusing on that inevitable fall, I just started coasting and just like that, my feet were off the ground, and I was pedaling and I wasn’t falling. I was screaming in profound joy though because I just learned to bike!
And now as I write about it, I laugh to myself at the absurdity of my stubbornness. I was so attached to my fundamental gap of not being able to bike that I wasted so many years of potential biking wins and fails.
Last weekend during a bike ride, I underestimated an edge and took a nasty fall, scraping my fingers raw. It hurt. My ego hurt. Then there was that sudden realization that nothing is permanent. It’s so easy to zero in on the negative and dwell on a downer, but what takes effort is realizing that you shouldn’t take anything for granted. One day you’re happily biking and the next, you can’t button your pants because of your messed up fingers.
It’s all in the perspective.
Side note: Just because you practice yoga doesn’t automatically mean you can ride a bike because you’re so ‘centrally inclined’.